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Why the hell am I such a fuck up!!

Discussion in 'Off-Topic Discussion' started by helpmeout, Sep 22, 2022 at 4:22 AM.

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  1. Sep 22, 2022 at 4:22 AM
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    helpmeout

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    I’m 28, living on my own, making a decent living but lost the only person I cared and loved about. She is 59 and before you say I could do better or find someone your own age etc… I have heard of it before. I don’t even know what posting this might do but what in the actual freak. This is like the 6 time she left me and I’m terrified every time she leaves me. This is the 2nd time she blocked me to which it makes no sense why. I have done everything for her that I can.

    she has even told me a couple days ago before she blocked me that she’s thankful that I’m there for here and how I am one of the few that stuck with her because I have known her for 3 years and we been going out for a year and 2 months. I have basically been lost every time this happen because I don’t know how she’s doing and if she will ever come back or not.
     
  2. Sep 22, 2022 at 4:31 AM
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    This might be better on Facebook.
     
  3. Sep 22, 2022 at 4:38 AM
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    T-Rex266

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    So, she’s 2x your age and has left you multiple times? How is any of this mentally healthy?
    She should know, at her age this isn’t healthy and it’s time for both to move on with your lives. What keeps you two keep going back?
    How long have you two been on/off for? is she possibly dating someone else that goes back/forth which causes you two to go back and forth?
     
  4. Sep 22, 2022 at 4:49 AM
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    Came with all the lane departure and that stuff, electric tail gate lock, fog lights, 20s, sprayed on bed liner, tint, cat protector, and that’s about it??:)
    She has left you how many times??? and you are in your 20s? I am sure you’ll get over it!! Go to work and make a decent living and move on and if she has a Tundra tell a friend to tell her to come over to the Tundra side!

    do you have a Tundra???? Send a letter to Dear Abby!! WOW!
     
  5. Sep 22, 2022 at 4:52 AM
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    Came with all the lane departure and that stuff, electric tail gate lock, fog lights, 20s, sprayed on bed liner, tint, cat protector, and that’s about it??:)
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    Did she take the truck? If not, everything will be okay.
     
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    Wynnded What MPG...

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    Good luck pal...

     
  8. Sep 22, 2022 at 4:55 AM
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    Came with all the lane departure and that stuff, electric tail gate lock, fog lights, 20s, sprayed on bed liner, tint, cat protector, and that’s about it??:)
    ^^^^^^^^LMAO!!!!!!
     
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    I doubt a bunch of Tundra schmoes are gonna change your mind. But ask anyone in a healthy relationship about your issue, and they’ll have the same answer. I don’t doubt you have strong feelings about this person, but she does not feel the same. You’re a backup, the one she can run to when she’s lonely or desperate. The real issues are with yourself, and why you’re seeking the affection of this much older person who clearly doesn’t reciprocate your feelings. A deeper issue is in your title, because her leaving you isn’t at all your fault.
     
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  10. Sep 22, 2022 at 5:04 AM
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    Brother, too often we let others dictate our own self worth. Not only do you seem to be doing this, but I suspect she is as well. By doing this to you, she gets the validation of having you lose your mind over it, and having you try to win her back. It makes her feel more important and needed. She’s not concerned with the damage she’s doing to you just so she can get an ego boost.
    Only thing I’d say is that at that age, people generally aren’t going to change. At 59, you are pretty much who you’re going to be, and this behavior is almost definitely going to continue. You need to decide if you’re willing to accept that.
    Look at yourself, and work on developing your own self worth independent of others. I think you’ll be much happier in the long run. You don’t want to spend your life being on a roller coaster because you need someone else to make you feel valuable. You will be a better person for both yourself and your partner if your validation comes from within.
     
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    Women don't want a man who bends over backwards for them. Just be yourself, live you life, get some interesting hobbies and the right one will come along.

    Definitely don't get back together with her again.
     
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    Stay away from American women of any age.

    Life may seem like hell now, but a few months without her focusing on positive outlets and goals and you’ll suddenly realize you’re a happy person who was being abused by a bad person.

    Move forward young man. Don’t make contact of any kind whatsoever from this second forward. Go enjoy your life :)
     
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    How big is this sugar mommas account?
    Asking for a friend
     
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    https://youtu.be/9uf6EY2BZBw
     
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    She seem kinda on and off and that she said she doesn’t have much time to find anyone and I told her I won’t leave her etc… and she kept doubting the age thing before we got into a relationship that’s why she was hesitant at first and told me no. I was glad when she said yes eventually.

    Long story short, I even had called of work multiple times and stuck with her pass 4 in the morning when I have work in 2 or 3 hours for 3 straight days not to long ago. I have even checked in on her while she was sick etc… its not like I’m using her or anything. Her taking like 8 medication a night doesn’t help either. I can’t even sleep comfortably and never have been in the pass when I had relationship issues or argue over the most silliest of things. When I sleep I wake up at 3 in the morning or early but when everything is going alright between the 2 of us I can sleep alright.

    I had given her $400 recently to for a blanket I “ruined”.

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    hagrid

    hagrid It's called "satire"... look it up.

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    Good Lord, I hope not. Need to save money for fuel.
    The beast way to get over a woman is to get under another one.
     
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    Adam And poof! All my patience is gone. TA-DAA!

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    She enjoys the drama. Ain’t no pussy that tight.
     
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    Dude. Get out. Get out now. Run far away.
     
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    Listen bud, unless she is stupid rich, drop every thought of her. From what you said, it is blindingly obvious that she doesn't see a future with you. She is playing a game where she gets a little stability from you while she looks for the next guy.
    It is not healthy for you to have this kind of BS stress. If you are dead set on finding someone fast (who will actually stay for a little while), take a vacation to the Philippines or Thailand (use caution around the really good looking girls, they may not be) and find yourself a woman there. Sure, it'll take some effort, and her family will mob you, but you'll be happier.
     
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    hagrid It's called "satire"... look it up.

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    Good Lord, I hope not. Need to save money for fuel.
    Cut bait, unless the blankey was ruined by her coaxing herculean quantities of baby batter out of you.

    Even still, shoulda gone halvsies.
     
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    She said it cost her $200 due to being a down king size comforter so I gave her $400 to show her that I cared more for her that she has to go buy it again and waste time. Who in the world would give you 2x what anything cost if they don’t care or love you and yes I am a fool for that and I know. She is well of as she has a Mercedes e class 2018 fully loaded and she has a huge house with over 3500 sq feet. Her house alone cost close to 600k.

    she knows how much I care for her. I even buy food for her and everything with my own hard earned money because I want to show her that I can take care of her.
     
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    This is not going to get any better. You can keep riding this roller coaster for the rest of your life or you can move on. You are young and will find someone else.
    (Speaking from experience...)
     
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    You can do a lot of mods on a tundra for $400

    After reading the first post I wanted to see a silver lining but it seems you’re just her back burner boy. Been there, done that. It sucks, but the best thing you can do is go out and raise a little hell. Especially at you’re age. She’ll be a thing of the past before you know it. Good luck!
     
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    One thing I have noticed is that your replies always crack me up lol. Comedy anywhere in your future? :D
     
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    Sounds like a Dr. Phil episode...or two.
     
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    Please seek a professional In The mental health field. They will be able to help you work through this much better than posting to random internet sites. They may also help to put you on a better path in life.
     
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    I was gonna ask the same ? :fistbump:
     
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