Tundras live: Dumb Dad Jokes, Incorrect Opinions, and Relationship Advice.

100% beef from a happy cow. Think his name was Joe.

 

I test drove it. Wouldn't buy it. Just not for me.

 

Vehicle in general. They're badass, but just not what I want/need.

 

They are fun vehicles but yeah I needed a truck.

 

I just had mediocre pizza, that looks way better.
Fish and shrimp tacos?

 

So, I'll respond to this; but first I gotta ask....

When you say, 'I would send some more kindness her way'.... What specifically are you referring to???

Also, is she someone you are feeling like you are having a 'romantic' interest in, or just 'hey she was appreciative and it made me feel good; therefore I want to do more for her'

 

PS>>> and more importantly, where does she fall on the Hot Crazy Matrix???

 

Ok, hang on a few; I've gotta shuffle some laundry around, and I'll be back in a few w/a serious answer...

 

It's a different world now.
I would be nice and polite from a distance. Continue to help out when things come up, through your mom. Only when it's convenient for you though, wouldn't want to give her a romantic impression like you're bending over backwards for her.

Good on ya for helping out.

 

You can be friends, but don't do anything you wouldn't do for an average dude. Would you be buying small appliances for a guy who wasn't disabled? Best thing you can do is pretend the disability doesn't exist, and only give extra help if it's requested.

 

Ok, I'm back; so here we go...

Disclaimer: I am not a mental health professional or a licensed therapist, although I am very well versed in Operant Conditioning and Behavior Modification (mainly as it pertains to dogs)...

My comments are based on personal/professional experience and do NOT reflect an industry standard for appropriate behavior or interaction with said prospect. In other words, follow my advice at your own risk... and I'm really just spitballing here, so my points may not have an appropriate flow to them.

So, before we continue, are these gestures things you would do for anyone else (boy or girl) if all things were equal minus your perception of her mental health??

 

I’ve read all the replies to your original question and generally agree with everyone’s response.

I think doing something for this woman, independent of her mental state, is high risk if you initiate it. Either it will make you appear interested in her (possibly making her uncomfortable) or she will become interested in you. Since neither reaction is desired, then I say move along. Be nice to her again if another random situation arises, but don’t initiate anything.

Random acts of kindness are fun and I feel like they are even better when initiated by strangers. Spread them around.

 

I learned in my 30’s that you can either always have CC debt or restrain yourself for a few years, save your money and then only buy what you can pay for in cash.

I didn’t do this with cars/trucks, but with wine. Twice a year we’d go wine tasting and buy a ton of wine. Pay that CC bill off after 4-6 months and do it again. It was a stupid cycle and thankfully broken when my second child was born. We had to rework the finances when we decided my wife wasn’t going back to work.

Today, my CC is setup to auto pay the full balance each month. I keep the points and don’t ever pay interest. I auto-transfer money into savings and use that to help offset expensive CC months. As long as my savings keeps increasing then I’m winning.

 

My wife had the cash to buy her Corolla about 10 years ago so she gave her dad the money and he bought the car on his visa for the cash back or rewards or whatever it is his card gives him.

 

Spotted this yesterday. I’d drive it.

 

iT's tOo sMaLl!