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Please love your children a little extra today.

Discussion in 'Off-Topic Discussion' started by TucsonTundra1794, Dec 1, 2022.

  1. Dec 1, 2022 at 11:50 AM
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    TucsonTundra1794

    TucsonTundra1794 [OP] ASCM #6-11 I'll buy if you're willing to ship

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    This post is heavy, please know this before reading on.


    Hey guys, I've really enjoyed being a part of this community for the past year and a half. Members on here have been so supportive and helpful with things tundra related and beyond. I wanted to put this out here just so I could let those of you who know me know what I'm going through as well as to help create some awareness. On Tuesday afternoon my 16 year old son left school early and turned his phone off so we were unable to get a hold of him or track him. His family and friends spent all night looking for him and into Wednesday morning. We had a police officer arrive at our house yesterday afternoon to inform us that our son was found and that he had committed suicide that morning. There are absolutely no words to describe how I feel. He was the oldest of our 3 and his brother (13) and sister (8) are very distraught. This will be a very challenging time for us and I just ask that you keep us in your prayers. Our son had some issues with depression that seems to be hereditary and we had him on medication and regular therapy sessions and honestly we thought he was doing great. This just goes to show you never really know what someone is going through or how they feel on the inside. Please give your children some extra love today and appreciate every moment you have with them.
     
  2. Dec 1, 2022 at 11:51 AM
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    T-Rex266

    T-Rex266 Sushi, and Teslas Staff Member

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    OMG I cant imagine how you feel. I am so, so, sorry dude.
     
  3. Dec 1, 2022 at 11:54 AM
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    Northbound Train

    Northbound Train Masshole

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    I am so sorry to read this. The worst thing a parent could have to deal with. You will be in my thoughts. So very sorry.
    Glenn
     
  4. Dec 1, 2022 at 12:26 PM
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    slowpokepete

    slowpokepete New No More

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    I am so sorry to read this.

    My youngest daughter is now 24, but struggled with anxiety and depression, cutting, etc, from about age ten through her teens.

    She attempted suicide multiple times.

    She is doing much better now, but my heart breaks and I am so sorry for what you and your family must be going through.

    SPP
     
  5. Dec 1, 2022 at 12:28 PM
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    NWPirate

    NWPirate .

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    Fuck dude, I'm so sorry. Much love to you and your family right now.
     
  6. Dec 1, 2022 at 12:30 PM
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    PRO BLANCO

    PRO BLANCO Dirt biking & fishing

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    So sorry to hear :(
     
  7. Dec 1, 2022 at 12:33 PM
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    Outbound

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    I'm so sorry to hear. I can't imagine what you're going through. :(
     
  8. Dec 1, 2022 at 12:40 PM
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    Squatting Pigeon

    Squatting Pigeon Squattingpigeon.com Staff Member

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    I’m so sorry Anthony.
    You reach out if you need absolutely anything. You and the family are in my thoughts.
     
  9. Dec 1, 2022 at 12:41 PM
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    Tacogrande

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    Very sorry to hear this! May God bless and comfort you and your family!

    Several months ago my next door neighbors grandson got upset and sliced his arm open cutting through his tendons in front of her.
     
  10. Dec 1, 2022 at 12:42 PM
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    BIGUGLY

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    I know from experience words don't mean a thing in times like this. But I know their are a lot of genuine people here who wish they could help in any way shape or form, please know your are not alone in struggles like this.

    All I can say is I am very sorry about your loss and hope the Mrs, and siblings can wade thru this with you as best as possible.
     
  11. Dec 1, 2022 at 12:43 PM
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    Taco-Spike

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    SO sorry to hear that :(
     
  12. Dec 1, 2022 at 12:43 PM
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    War Machine

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    This breaks my heart Anthony. No words can alleviate your pain, especially from a stranger on the internet, but I hear you and hope you and your family can navigate this and find healing down the road. If there’s ever anything we can do, even if it’s just to listen and let you vent, please know we’re here and we care.
     
  13. Dec 1, 2022 at 12:46 PM
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    Slag_Dynamics

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    I’m so sorry to hear this. I’ll definitely give my kids an extra hug when I get home. I can’t imagine what you must be going through. I’m in AZ as well if you need anything, shoot me a PM.
     
  14. Dec 1, 2022 at 12:49 PM
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    FrenchToasty

    FrenchToasty Desert rat, 6 lug enthusiast

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    My thoughts are with your family, let us know what you need
     
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  15. Dec 1, 2022 at 12:49 PM
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    Fotnot

    Fotnot SSEM #69; LRCS#1

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    I'm so sorry to hear this! Praying for all of y'all. Goes without saying, but reach out if needed.
     
  16. Dec 1, 2022 at 12:49 PM
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    ToyoMafia

    ToyoMafia SSEM #15-3MW-RGBA#?-@toyomafiaworld

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    Anthony you are Crew. We love ya brother. I am so damn heartbroken for you and the fam. Shit has tears in my eyes man. I’m sorry this fucking sucks. I’m shooting you my number doesn’t have to be today or even tomorrow but store it in your phone and give me a call whenever ya want.
     
  17. Dec 1, 2022 at 12:52 PM
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    Oey12

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    Terrible…sorry you’re family has to experience this. Sending my deepest sympathies.
     
  18. Dec 1, 2022 at 12:53 PM
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    SES378

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    I am so sorry to hear this. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family as you go through this difficult time.
     
  19. Dec 1, 2022 at 12:54 PM
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    GODZILLA

    GODZILLA ASCM#1 Douchebag formerly known as 50 Buck

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    Man, I am so sorry. I know I can't say or do anything to help with how you and your family are feeling, but I'm here. We all are. Know that your grief is shared by all of us, and if we can help in anyway, we will.
     
  20. Dec 1, 2022 at 12:56 PM
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    RobertD

    RobertD ASCM#4 "I call it Vera" ~Jayne Cobb

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    Condolences... heart breaking to hear this. I have no experiences close. But we've been dealing with a bit the past few years, this forum has been amazing for me. Hopefully we can help in some form, just let us know if there is anything specific.
     
  21. Dec 1, 2022 at 12:59 PM
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    Rc23

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    I've got no words man - I can't imagine. I'm so sorry brother.
     
  22. Dec 1, 2022 at 12:59 PM
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    texasrho83

    texasrho83 Teacher in a Tundra

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    From one father to another, my sincerest condolences......if there's anything a stranger in TX can do for you, let me know.

    I struggled with depression for 2 years. Medication didn't do anything. It almost took me out. I know all too well what your son was feeling and it hits hard.

    I'm so sorry.
     
  23. Dec 1, 2022 at 1:00 PM
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    Terndrerrr

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    I can’t imagine. I am so sorry to read this. You and your family are in my family’s prayers.
     
  24. Dec 1, 2022 at 1:00 PM
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    crewmaxlmt

    crewmaxlmt How dare you!

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    I am very sorry for you and your families loss. This time of year especially makes it difficult. Make sure that take any and all support from your family and friends, even those online. Use this support to help you and your immediate family; you all need it. Again, I am very sorry for your loss. I have a 16, 15, and 13 year old and can not imagine our family having to deal with this. Please take care.
     
  25. Dec 1, 2022 at 1:01 PM
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    MARanger

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    No words. The community is here for you when you need it.
     
  26. Dec 1, 2022 at 1:06 PM
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    Tundyfundy

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    I'm so sorry to hear this man. I wish I could offer you some words of consolation but this is something you cant fathom as a parent, if you've never been through it. Ill just say that my heart is heavy today for your loss and that the need to cherish everyday will be renewed in me today because of this. I am wishing the best for you and your family in light of this tragedy.
     
  27. Dec 1, 2022 at 1:07 PM
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    Silver17

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    I’m so sorry to hear this. As a soon to be father, I can only imagine the pain of this situation. My condolences to you and your family. As others have made clear, we are here to help in any way possible.
     
  28. Dec 1, 2022 at 1:07 PM
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    jewsNbrews

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    Prayers to you and your loved ones. Reach out if you need anything. Even if just to vent or let things out. Sometimes it's best to vent/unload feelings to someone outside the family that isn't dealing with the same things you are.
     
  29. Dec 1, 2022 at 1:07 PM
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    Hightide

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    Oh Anthony,
    My heart is breaking for you and your family.
    Nothing can ever prepare you for the loss of a child.
    You and your family are in my thoughts and I’m wishing nothing but love, peace and comfort.
     
  30. Dec 1, 2022 at 1:14 PM
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    RainMan_PNW

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    This is absolutely heart breaking to hear. Hits very close to home too, but I still can’t imagine going through this as a parent.

    I know there is nothing I can do to repair the gaping hole this has ripped in your world right now, but if there’s I anything can do to help or even just listen and cry with you, please do not hesitate to reach out.

    Sending all the love and hugs that I can.
     

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