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Anyone else's spouse hate their truck mods?

Discussion in 'Off-Topic Discussion' started by Spolar, May 23, 2017.

  1. May 23, 2017 at 8:42 PM
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    Spolar

    Spolar [OP] Going broke

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    Title says it. My wife does not like what I'm doing with my build. She told me not to get a bed rack because they're "ugly," not a fan of my bumper, and really thinks my wheels are ugly (like really... she wants me to sell them and they're only a couple months old). I show her my future plans and she just rolls her eyes.
     
  2. May 23, 2017 at 8:44 PM
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    aperezsh

    aperezsh Blessed are the peacemakers

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    A little this and that...Broke now
    oh man no bueno..hope it doesn't cause any serious friction
     
  3. May 23, 2017 at 8:46 PM
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    Vizsla

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    I speak wife at a ninja level, let me translate, you need to spend more money/maybe time on her. They're quite fickle.
     
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  4. May 23, 2017 at 8:47 PM
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    dragos28

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    nothing much
    time for a divorce
     
  5. May 23, 2017 at 8:49 PM
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    Achuop

    Achuop Stormtrooper 5.7

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    My wife thinks I spend more time looking at Tundras.com rather than on her.
     
  6. May 23, 2017 at 8:50 PM
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    pbryant44

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    My wife wants me to spend more money on my tundra
     
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  7. May 23, 2017 at 8:53 PM
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    Tacotundra

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    Mine is ok with it. She enjoys off roading almost as much as me so that helps. :)
     
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  8. May 23, 2017 at 8:54 PM
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    aperezsh

    aperezsh Blessed are the peacemakers

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    A little this and that...Broke now
    My Command Master Chief would let me go all out cash permitting..She has voiced a few stipulations like no ghost flames or pin striping but over all She's Awesome about it!
     
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  9. May 23, 2017 at 8:54 PM
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    Joeshaker

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    You're either lying or the luckiest guy on the planet!
     
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  10. May 23, 2017 at 8:59 PM
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    Toyotoholic

    Toyotoholic -4Life-

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    Buy her some bling... she won't even hear you when you say "honey, I'm getting the TRD supercharger put on next week with a 7" lift and 35's... Just as long as she knows you spent more on her then your truck, you can do as you please. Happy wife =
     
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  11. May 23, 2017 at 9:00 PM
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    Vizsla

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    Translation - you do, but cannot help it.
    Translation - you have $$$, and probably well endowed.
    Translation - keeper!
    Translation - not quite sure, who brought up the ghost flamey things and stripes? You?, need more info...
     
  12. May 23, 2017 at 9:01 PM
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    Tacotundra

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    Tiffany jewelry that little blue bag makes it all better :thumbsup:
     
  13. May 23, 2017 at 9:01 PM
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    BestGen

    BestGen Free Kyle!

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    I wouldn't dream of telling my wife how to go about her hobbies and interests. I know she loves whatever it is she does. She pays me the same respect. That being said I've often paid for mods and related gear with cash so she has no real clue as to how much money I've spent. ;)
     
  14. May 23, 2017 at 9:02 PM
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    ColoradoTJ

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    I don't ask for my wife's opinion. Problem solved. :thumbsup:
     
  15. May 23, 2017 at 9:06 PM
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    Vizsla

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    Easier to ask for forgiveness, than permission. Works fairly well for me.
     
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  16. May 23, 2017 at 9:08 PM
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    Spolar

    Spolar [OP] Going broke

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    Ha if that were only true. She doesn't care that I spend money on surfboards, guns, knives, etc. And time together isn't an issue we get plenty of that. She honestly just isn't into off roading and thinks overland builds are ugly.
     
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  17. May 23, 2017 at 9:09 PM
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    BestGen Free Kyle!

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    I've pretty much lived my whole life by this philosophy.
     
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  18. May 23, 2017 at 9:12 PM
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    Bilstein 6112/5160 trd sway bar and ride rite bags. Black and burnt orange wet okole seat covers.
    My wife just doesn't like me spending money to modify a perfectly good vehicle.
     
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  19. May 23, 2017 at 9:14 PM
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    pbryant44

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    My wife wants my truck lifted and blacked out and sounding loud. She loves my tundra and wants to drive it all the time.
     
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  20. May 23, 2017 at 9:15 PM
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    Sounds like you need 2 Tundra's. Lucky!!
     
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  21. May 23, 2017 at 9:16 PM
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    Well you are going to have this in marriage, normal. Tell her this is what you like, tell her to hate it, but let you have it. Then enjoy your hobby without her, and don't think twice. It be all good.
     
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  22. May 23, 2017 at 9:25 PM
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    I don't have a wife so life is good.
     
  23. May 23, 2017 at 9:26 PM
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    Backslider Thirsty...

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    Mine sometimes acts like she hates it but I know she loves it. Now that she has the 4runner I've been dropping a bunch of money on it and she's starting to really understand...
     
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  24. May 23, 2017 at 9:26 PM
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    831Tun crazy Bastrd

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    I've found this generally works pretty well. In my case I just need to be careful not to abuse it. Hence, no SC......yet.
     
  25. May 23, 2017 at 9:26 PM
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  26. May 23, 2017 at 9:28 PM
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    Spolar [OP] Going broke

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    I conveyed the wrong tone. We're totally good marriage wise. Been together 16 years, married 10 and we're as happy as ever. The truck isn't a source of any REAL strife. She just thinks I'm making the truck ugly, and would prefer I don't do certain mods, but at the end of the day it's up to me. It'd just be nice if she was excited about building the rig and getting outdoors.

    Also, this is my daily. So going out or taking the family somewhere in some built-up Tundra isn't exactly her idea of a nice family ride, which I understand.
     
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  27. May 23, 2017 at 9:31 PM
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    bobeast

    bobeast really old member

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    - Bull Bar - LED Bunny Burners - AMP retractable running boards - Headlight leveling retrofit - P3 Brake Controller - 60% rear seat delete - relocation of Sub to rear wall - Bilstein 5100 x4, top setting with 2 shims per side - Coach builder +2 rear shackles w/carrier bearing drop - Firestone Air bags - on-board compressor with auto-leveling - Dual Undercover Swing Boxes. - P285/65/R20 (34.6") BFG TA KO2's - TRD Front skid plate - Pop & Lock Tailgate lock - Remote Tailgate mod - LED Headlights - Nav Bypass - iPhone integration - Serius/XM retrofit - 25% front tint - Bizon electric tonneau cover - Power folding tow mirror upgrade - 2010+ leveling Headlight mod - Auto-fold mirror mod. - one-touch lane changer mod - Flash to open garage opener mod - Rigid H/L fog light upgrade - Pushbutton / Remote start mod.
    Mine views every mod with a critical eye....to decide if she wants the same thing done to her truck.
     
  28. May 23, 2017 at 9:35 PM
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    pbryant44

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    I wish i could afford 2 tundras i would. Id get her a platinum and turn mine into a more offroad beast.
     
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  29. May 23, 2017 at 9:38 PM
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    Vizsla

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    No I got the tone, if you do it she will watch, and curiosity will overcome. Next thing you know you took the wifey route to your goal. I'm old.
     
  30. May 23, 2017 at 9:39 PM
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    Eclipsed & Floating

    Eclipsed & Floating Over it.........

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