SR Fog Light Help!

I've searched and searched and seen many threads, but none finding exactly what I am looking for...maybe it's me.
I have a 2016 Tundra SR, the new fog lights are mounted and connected to the factory wiring. I purchased the (correct?) relay, and installed it. Now I am just trying to connect the switch on the dash, not the turn signal stalk. I came with a blue, black and red wire. The black is grounded. I'm not sure what to do with the red and blue. I've seen threads suggesting to connect it to the pink wire in J 28. I tried that with both wires, blue and red individually with no luck.
I believe I have no power to the switch, and I'm hoping that's the issue. Does anyone know where I can connect the blue and red wire? Maybe the blue to the pink wire from the harness and the red to another nearby wire for power? But which one?
I'm about to pull my hair out. Thanks in advance.

 

I think if you want to use the factory wire harness at the front bumper you have to install the stick behind the steering wheel with the light controls that has the fog light switch in it. I have a SR myself and that is how it was done to mine at the dealership. I hope this info helps.

 

Thanks cquilichini. I was trying to avoid that, but that may be my next move.